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20 March, 2019

WHAT REALLY MATTERS?



What really matters in Life? When you were a child, did anyone tell you? If that did not happen, it should have. Knowing what really matters in life helps you create a blueprint for your life. It helps you develop a sense of purpose . . . a sense of direction. If you do not have a sense of purpose or a sense of direction, you will find yourself drifting along in the Ocean of Life . . . you will find yourself swept up in the currents and waves of the Ocean of Life. Life is about purpose. Life is about direction.
If no one ever told you what really matters in life, I will. There are only three things that really matter in life. These three things are all that the world wants to know about you no matter where you live in the global village that we know as Planet Earth — the space and place you occupy along with 7.6 billion souls. Your happiness and success are directly connected to these three things. And these three things that really matter are actually questions that the world asks you:
1. How smart are you?
2. What do you have to offer?
3. Can you be trusted?
That’s right. The world is not interested in your ethnicity, religion, politics, culture, or economic or social status. The world does not care to know how much “bling” you have or whether you live in a multi-million dollar condominium on the 40th floor of a glass and concrete skyscraper or in a one-room hut with a dirt floor in a remote rural village. It has no interest in knowing whether you have a six-figure bank account or only six cents in your checking or savings account. The world is really about substance and not superficiality.
HOW SMART ARE YOU?
Graduating from high school in the first percentile of your class, obtaining a perfect Scholastic Aptitude Test (“SAT”) score of 2400, graduating from Harvard or Yale or Columbia or Princeton or the University of Pennsylvania magna cum laude is a small piece of the puzzle that determines your level of intelligence — how smart you really are. Now, don’t get it twisted. You should strive to graduate from high school in the first percentile of your class. You should strive to obtain a perfect SAT score of 2400, and a goal of graduating magna cum laude from any institution of higher learning should be at the top of your “To Do” list. But it is not the “be all” and “end all” of determining how smart you are. Intelligence is not just about “book learning”. Intelligence is about “wisdom”. The world determines how smart you are by looking at how you apply the knowledge and intelligence that you have. The manner in which you apply your knowledge and your intelligence is a barometer for the level of wisdom that you have acquired. It is important to be proficient and well-versed in mathematics, business, law, English, the arts, science, information technology, engineering, manufacturing, communications, journalism, and social media. But what valuable life lessons have you learned? What lessons have you learned about compassion, hope, faith, sacrifice, and “standing in your own truth”? What you have learned or not learned about compassion, hope, faith, sacrifice, and “standing in your own truth" will have a direct bearing on the manner in which you apply the knowledge and intelligence you have acquired.
When it is all said and done, it is the choices and decisions that you make that speaks volume to the world about how smart you are.
WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO OFFER?
When the world looks at you it asks, “What do you have to offer?” The world wants to know if you have skills and talents. Do you have the skills and talents needed to create high quality products and services for the 7.6 billion souls who live and work in the global village we know as Planet Earth? Will your skill set create and manage a farm that will produce vegetables and fruits and meat which will help to feed some of the 7.6 billion souls who occupy Planet Earth? Do you have the skills and talents needed to create and manage a new business in your community which will provide your neighbors with jobs as well as easy access to goods and services? Do you have the skills required to build housing to help put a roof over the heads of 7.6 billion souls throughout our global village? Do you have the skills necessary to teach mathematics, science, reading, writing, foreign languages, history, accounting, law, marketing, music, and art to our global village’s 2.2 billion children — the Next Generation of Leaders, Husbands, Fathers, Wives, and Mothers? Will your skill set bring healing to the world? Will it eradicate illnesses that prevent the children and adults of the world from living happy, healthy, and long lives? Will your skill set and talents transform blighted, chaotic, and violent communities into a safe, nurturing, and economically and spiritually vibrant oasis?
Once the world has established that you do indeed have skills and talents, it will then want to know whether you excel at a particular skill or talent. How well do you perform a particular skill or talent? Having talent and skills and excelling at the talent and skills that you have is not just important to the world. It is also important to you. It helps to shape your self-esteem, your feelings of “worthiness”, and your vision of your destiny and the work that you were put here on Earth to do. It is tied to your sense of direction and sense of purpose. It is tied to how you define and see yourself.
CAN YOU BE TRUSTED?
You may find it hard to believe, but the world runs on trust. When the world looks at you, it asks: “Is your word your bond? Are you trustworthy?” In other words, do you do what you say you are going to do when you say you are going to do it? When you promise to show up at a certain place on a certain day at a certain time, do you actually show up? When you promise to call someone on a certain day at a certain time, do you actually pick up the telephone and call them? When you promise to send an e-mail to someone to convey information or to forward a document, do you actually send it? And if you find that for some reason you are unable to do what you promised, do you immediately contact the person, apologize, and tell them that you will not be able to do what you promised — and explain why — and when you will be able to deliver your promise? Or instead, do you tell yourself, “The heck with it!” and not offer an apology or explanation as to why you are unable to keep your promise to the other person? If you consistently engage in this type of behavior, you are telling the world: “Don’t trust me!”
Each time that you either do what you say you are going to do, or do not do what you say you are going to do, you are building your reputation. People who do not know you, but may want to befriend you, hire you, or do business with you, will want to know if you have a “good” reputation or a “bad” reputation. Consistently delivering what you promise, will earn you a “good” reputation, while consistently not doing what you have promised to do on a consistent basis, will earn you a “bad” reputation. Would you want to start a friendship with, or hire, or do business with someone who has a “good” reputation or a “bad” reputation? Would you trust someone who consistently does what he or she promises to do? Would you feel comfortable being in the company of someone who consistently does not do what he or she has promised? Would you feel confident working with or doing business with someone who has a consistent track record of breaking promises and not showing up when they say they are going to show up?
You can be brilliant and have exceptional skills and talents, but if, for whatever reason, you have consistently demonstrated that you cannot or will not keep your promises, the doors of opportunities which were open to you will abruptly slam shut!

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Diane A. Sears is an author (www.xlibris.com; www.amazon.com), publisher, Social Justice Contributing Editor for the Good Men Project (www.goodmenproject.com).

09 March, 2019

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH MEN: WHERE OUR HEALING STARTS: MATTHEW SOLOMON

[PHOTOGRAPH COURTESY OF MR JORDAN ANCEL] 


I am often asked during interviews, “What do I want women to know about men?” My answer is, “We are sensitive too.” While that has always been my answer, the more work I do with men, the more conversations I have and the more of my own work I continue to do, the deeper I discover our sensitivity is, and the more and more pain that gets uncovered. 

A less-kind version of that question is: “What is wrong with men?” 

I get asked that a lot too, and I get where it comes from. 

Women have been expressing their anger and frustration towards men for much longer than even the online incarnation of the #MeTooMovement. 

Our pop culture is riddled with displays of “men are stupid” and “women are smarter.”

We are portrayed as lazy, video-game playing, shut-down oafs who have no relationship intelligence, nor do we want any. And to be completely honest, I have spent time on that bandwagon as well over the years. My tune has changed drastically within the past several months, though.

 I am a man who believed I was hurt by men, could not trust other men and had to keep my circle very small. For the most part, we are socialized to be suspicious of each other. If we aren’t part of “the team,” or “the group,” then we are most likely enemies. This has us walking around wounded and on-guard constantly. 

In fact, the whole “healing” conversation regarding men has us set up to fail as well. 

We have been told we need to express our emotions, while at the same time being seen as weak for even having them or scary for showing them. If we express anger, it is scary. 

If we express grief, we can’t be trusted to take care of our partners. If we express happiness, we become vulnerable to outside threats; I have a friend in law enforcement who will not wear his wedding ring because he believes “they” will use it against him.

 We have come to a place where everyone is suspicious of us—women, other men, and most of us do not even trust ourselves. That needs to change for us to move forward.

 As I said, I thought I had been hurt by men. Unless I really knew another man, his beliefs, his intentions and what he stood for, I could not fully trust him. As I write this, I imagine this lands as a no-brainer for most of you as well.

 The times I’ve felt most embraced by other men have been in my martial arts community, certain seminar systems I have participated in, and most recently, on a yoga retreat. Within all of these groups, what has drawn me close and had me feel safe with others has been the sharing, the common ground and the beauty of a man who wants to do better, live better, and be better. When our guard comes down and we get to the heart of our individual experiences and pain, we form bonds with each other that are quite moving. 

The dichotomy, which as a man I also understand, is that we are still, currently, a species at war. It would be naive for me to say to all of us, “Let’s just ‘peace and love’ this!” We aren’t there yet. We can, however, move in that direction. We are, in fact, at war with the move in that direction. Can we be “warriors of light” if the word “war” is still in there? Language is tricky that way. For me, the answer is “acceptance.” The more that we choose “acceptance” over “battle,” the easier our paths will be.

We get to accept that we have been expected to:

be strong
get over things quickly
not need anything from anyone
be loners
be leaders
be protectors
be emotionally available
be the bread-winners in our families

And yet, there is also the expectation that we are:

suspect
not emotionally available
lazy
disconnected
not trustworthy
dead-beats
and on and on…

And these lists do not even address all of the expectations on us regarding sex and intimacy.

 Acknowledging the dualities, getting that we are all the same in having unique qualities and experiences, is the way for us to honestly come together, as brothers, with our sisters, and evolve.

 In a very powerful exercise from a seminar I participated in around six years ago, I got that everyone is afraid of everyone on some deep level. We are all wired to protect ourselves from each other—not just women from men and men from men. And in knowing this truth, I have worked at coming more from compassion and from leading with hugs instead of being ready to defend. It’s not always like that; I am still working on it and, truthfully, there have still been times where “defend” seems necessary.
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MR. MATTHEW SOLOMON IS A SOCIAL VISIONARY; RELATIONSHIP EXPERT; EMPOWERMENT COACH (WWW.COACH WIT H MATTHEW SOLOMON .COM ), COLUMNIST AND CONTRIBUTING AUTHOR FOR THE GOOD MEN PROJECT (HTTPS:://WWW.GOODMEN PROJECT.COM/ AUTHOR/ MATTHEWSOLOMON/); AUTHOR OF ONE OF THE MILLENNIUM’S PROFOUND LITERARY WORKS “MAN SCHOOL: RELATING WITH WOMEN IN THE #METOO ERA” (WWW.AMAZON.COM); DIRECTOR, WRITER, AND PRODUCER FOR KUNG FU MAN FILMS; AND A FILM AND TELEVISION ACTOR WHO HAS APPEARED IN OVER 30 NATIONAL COMMERCIALS, THE FEATURE FILM, “OPERATION TERROR”, AND NUMEROUS TELEVISION SERIES WHICH INCLUDE “LAS VEGAS”, “THE SHIELD”, AND “AMERICAN DREAMS”. SOLOMON IS ALSO THE WRITER AND DIRECTOR FOR THE AWARD-WINNING FILM, “CHATTER”. INITIALLY PUBLISHED BY THE GOOD MEN PROJECT (HTTPS://GOODMENPROJECT.COM/FEATURED-CONTENT/THERE-IS-NOTHING-WRONG-WITH-MEN-NDGT/) ON 13 NOVEMBER 2018 AND REPRINTED BY IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD® WITH AUTHOR’S PERMISSION.

22 February, 2019

QIGONG SIFU AND "QIGONG FOR THE WORKPLACE COMPACT TRAINING WORKSHOP" ARCHITECT GLENVILLE ASHBY, Ph.D. TO BE FEATURED ON KNQR RADIO --WVIP 93.5 FM - 25 FEBRUARY 2019 AT 10:30 P.M. (E.D.T.)



         BROOKLYN, NEW YORK (USA) – 22 February 2019 --  What is the mind-body-spirit connection?   Does everything in the Universe have its own unique rhythm?  How does stress created by the demands of work, family life, and personal relationships disrupt our unique rhythm and create imbalance that negatively impacts our physical, mental, and spiritual health?  What is QiGong and how can it help us  -- whether we are Millennials, Baby Boomers or Octogenarians -- manage stress, achieve mind-body-spirit alignment, and improve our physical, mental, and spiritual health?  What is the” QiGong For The Workplace Compact Training Workshop”?  Answers to these and other questions will be provided to the audience of the Sister Dobong Spiritual Radio Show on KNQR Radio – WVIP 93.5 FM by Glenville Ashby, Ph.D. on Monday, 25 February 2019 beginning at 10:30 P.M. (E.D.T.).   Dr. Ashby’s interview can be heard live and online at the following link:  https://onlineradiobox.com/us/kingand queenradio/.


          Dr. Ashby is a QiGong Sifu; the architect of the “QiGong For The Workplace Compact Training Workshop” which reduces workplace injuries, minimizes stress that negatively impacts the physical and mental health of souls employed in high pressure work environments, and lowers health care costs for employers and employees; Emotional Intelligence Thought Leader; award-winning author; lecturer; journalist; syndicated newspaper columnist (http:// jamaica-gleaner.com/authors/dr-glenville-ashby-0 and www.caribbeanbookreview.com); lecturer;  and one of the Millennium’s leading Spiritual Masters.  The author of the award-winning book, “The Mystical QiGong Handbook For Good Health” (https://www.youtu.be/ 3caybIN2YIQ), Ashby is a certified QiGong instructor who studied under Grandmaster Zhou Ting-Je and SifuTina Zhan; a Wellness Consultant at the Harlem Nursing and Rehabilitation Center; Master Reiki practitioner; a certified meditation instructor; and an initiate in the Ifá tradition.  A prolific writer, Dr. Ashby’s literary works also include  Anam Cara: Your Soul Friend and Bridge to Enlightenment and Creativity which is the recipient of the Literary Titan Gold Book Awards (https://literarytitan.com/ 2018/01/05/literary-titan-book-awards-january-2018/), The Believers: The Hidden World of West Indian in Spiritualism in New York; and “In Search Of Truth: A Course In Spiritual Psychology – Selected Writings 2013 -2018” (https://www.amazon.com/Search-Truth-Spiritual-Psychology-Selected-ebook/dp/B07D3GS5Z; https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/in-search-of-truth-glenville -ashby/ 1128625751?type=eBook).
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          ASHBY is a graduate of the University of the West Indies (St. Augustine campus) in Trinidad and Tobago; London School of Journalism, College of Media and Publishing in Sussex, in the United Kingdom; Pôle Universitaire Euclide, in The Gambia; and St. Gall’s Seminary  in Switzerland. He has studied and conducted advanced research in several fields of spirituality, including Spiritual Disorders at Ateneo Regina Pontificio Apostolorum in Rome. He has also studied Qigong. He is a practitioner of Johrie, a Japanese healing modality at Tenseishinbikai, USA in Brooklyn, New York.   A member of: The American Board of Clinical Hypnotherapy: the American Association of Transpersonal  Psychology; the United Kingdom Speechwriters’ Guild; and the South Asian Journalism Association, ASHBY was awarded with a citation from the New York State Assembly for his contribution to culture in New York.  Recently, an Award in Religion from the United Kingdom-based Plessey Castle Academic was conferred upon ASHBY, subsequent to his submission of a dissertation: “The Paradoxes of Religion and the Challenges of Interfaith Dialogue”.  He holds a doctoral degree in Interreligious Dialogue and Diplomacy from Pôle Universitaire Euclide and a graduate certification in Bioethics (ongoing) from the National Catholic Bioethics Center. 

          DR.  ASHBY is the Founder and President of the Global Interfaith Council, A Cultural and Research Institute and the Director of the Caribbean Book Review.  His work has been recognized by the International Society of Applied Psychoanalysis courtesy of its July 2018 newsletter and, in August 2018, the Vienna Psychoanalysis Magazine (https://www.theviennapsycho analyst.at/index. php? wbkat= 8&wbid= 1226) followed suit.

         To learn more about Dr. Ashby’s work, visit his website at www.glenvilleashby.com or send an e-mail to: glenvilleashby@gmail.com.

21 February, 2019

F,A,C,T, EXPERIENCE GRADUATION CEREMONY AT SCI-PHOENIX SCHEDULED FOR SATURDAY, 2 MARCH 2019


PRESS RELEASE 
For Immediate Release'

F.A.C.T. Experience Graduation Ceremony at SCI-Phoenix 
Saturday, March 2, 2019, from 5:45 P.M. to 9:00 p.m. 


          Collegeville, PA (USA) — 21 February 2019 — Heralded as a Global Model' for eradicating Fatherlessness and Intergenerational Incarceration, the "school-to-prison pipeline", and violence which marginalizes children, families and communities — the SCI Phoenix Father And Children Together (F.A.C.T. Experience) has announced that approximately fifteen (15) Fathers who have successfully completed the intensive fourteen (14) week two-tiered parenting training sessions will be honored at a graduation ceremony. The graduation ceremony is scheduled for Saturday, March 2, 2019, @ 5:45 p.m. at SCI-Phoenix, which is located at 1200 Mokychic Road, Collegeville, Pennsylvania 19426. F.A.C.T. is the brainchild of members of the United Community Action Network (U-CAN), a brilliant and purpose-driven outreach organization at SCI-Phoenix. After conducting extensive research, the gentlemen designed the two-tiered parenting workshop that helps Fathers and Children create bonds and builds strong relationships. 

          First, parenting workshops that are facilitated over a seven (7) week period that the Fathers must complete. Second, a six (6) week session, during which their child visits them in a one-onone therapeutic integration between Father and Child occurs along with joint pa?ticipation in workshops designed to enhance the bonding process and build a strong Father-Child relationship. Both the children and fathers learn things about each other, i.e. favorite colors, foods, movies, and subjects in school. Simultaneously, the F.A.C.T. Experience moves Mothers into the FatherChild bonding and relationship building equation by equipping them with parenting and coparenting skills. The fourteenth, and final week, is spent honoring the Fathers who have successfully completed the experience. The Fathers, Children, Mothers, Family Members, and members of the F.A.C.T. Experience's Internal and External Teams, along with invited guests from the community, attend a graduation ceremony, during which all participants are presented with certificates that herald their successful completion of the experience. 

          The F.A.C.T. Experience not only creates a bond between Fathers and their Children, and helps them build a strong relationship with each other, it also creates a bond among the Fathers who participate in the intensive parenting training sessions and workshops that evolves into a brotherhood. Mothers participating in the workshops and parenting training sessions develop a friendship — a friendship that evolves into a sisterhood. Children participating in the workshops create friendships as well with their peers. These friendships and relationships continue to develop and grow over time. Fathers who have successfully completed the F.A.C.T. Experience and eventually return to their families upon their release and continue — on an expansive level — to positively shape the minds and souls of their children. They also return to their communities with a new vision for themselves, their children, families, and communities. Even the Mothers come away with strong parenting, co-parenting, and communication skills, while the Children learn to excel academically, socially, and to change their behavior — they are less likely to be disruptive in the classroom, at home, or in the community. 

          The F.A.C.T. Experience, which has received local, national, and international media attention, is endorsed by, among others, the United States International Men's Day Team (http://www.usainternationalmensday.blogspot.com) and IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD@ a quarterly international Fatherhood and Men's Issues Journal (http://globalfatherhooddialogue.blogspot.com). 

       For further information about the SCI-Phoenix Fathers And Children Together Experience and/or its March 2, 2019 graduation ceremony, please contact Mr. Norman Williams, via, email at normwillia@pa.gov.

17 February, 2019

2019 WORLD DAY OF THE BOY CHILD: PROTECTING OUR BOYS . . . RECLAIMING OUR HERITAGE


CONTACT:

Africa Group Co-Coordinator – International Men’s Day 
Matthew Gansallo – Nigeria
E-Mail: mgansallo@yahoo.com

Caribbean Group Coordinator – International Men’s Day 
Michael Stewart E-Mail: michaelatstewarttlc@gmail.com

GHANA 
Ama Nsroma Larbie
Coordinator – World Day Of The Boy
Child Coordinator – International Men’s Day
E-mail: hello@theworthymenafrica.com

INDIA 
Jangam Veera Sasidhar
Coordinator – World Day of The Boy Child
E-Mail: sasi.saphr@gmail.com

INDONESIA
Joe Hanney
Coordinator – World Day of The Boy Child
Coordinator – International Men’s Day
E-Mail: joehanney@me.com

KENYA
Pastor Paul Muhami
Coordinator – World Day Of The Boy Child
Coordinator – International Men’s Day
E-mail: paulmuhami@gmail.com

Faith Nashipae
E-mail: fnashipae@thrivingfamilies.co.ke

LEBANON 
Liliane Andraos
Coordinator – World Day Of The Boy Child
E-Mail: liliane.andraos@gmail.com

NIGERIA 
Ola Akinwe
Coordinator – World Day Of The Boy Child
Coordinator – International Men’s Day
E-mail: bmanadvocacy@gmail.com

Jerry Eghomwanre
E-mail: osifo.jerry@yahoo.com

Eloviano Afakpe
E-Mail: eloviainitiative@gmail.com

SOUTH AFRICA 
Ditaba David Mphuthi, Ph.D
E-Mail: mphutdd@unisa.ac,za
Professor Thuledi Makua
E-mail: makuatp@unisa.ac.za

TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO
Jerome Teelucksingh, Ph.D.
Founder, International Men’s Day
E-Mail: j_teelucksingh@yahoo.com

Donald Berment
E-Mail: donaldberment@gmail.com

Ray M. S. Brathwaite
E-Mail: rmsbrath@yahoo.com

Dr. Robert Lee Moultrie
E-Mail: encouraging3000@gmail.com

Gabrielle Grant
E-Mail: ggrant91@hotmail.com

Wendell Grant
E-Mail: wendell.grant@gmail.com

Brian Bradshaw
E-Mail: generalrockjaw46@yahoo.com

Alvin Doris
E-Mail: alvindoris@yahoo.com

UGANDA 
Jane Nampija
Coordinator - World Day Of The Boy Child
E-Mail: jnampija@mfadv.org

ZIMBABWE 
Kenneth Maregere
 Coordinator – International Men’s Day
Coordinator – World Day Of The Boy Child
E- Mail: kenniemargere@gmail.com




          


          LAGOS, NIGERIA –  Institutions, organizations, and individuals throughout our global village will observe “World Day Of The Boy Child” on 16 May 2019 under the theme, “Protecting Our Boys . . . Reclaiming Our Heritage”. Of the 7.6 billion souls with whom we share Planet Earth, 3,874,259,756 are males and 1,004,638,305 of these souls are under the age of 15. Boys are more than mere extensions of ourselves. These souls represent our heritage and serve as one of the links to the past and the present that intersects with the future of our families, our communities, and our world. Created under the International Men’s Day umbrella, “World Day Of The Boy Child” was inaugurated in 2018 by Gender Issues Thought Leader, humanitarian, faculty member in the History Department at the University of West Indies, prolific author, and International Men’s Day Founder Jerome Teelucksingh, Ph.D.


          The 1,004,638,305 souls who are males under the age of 15 – boys – emerged from the womb with irrepressible enthusiasm, insatiable curiosity, a natural and spontaneous reaction to disappointment, rejection, failure, and spiritual, physical, psychological, and emotional pain, and a pristine view of the world. They are fragile and vulnerable. Somewhere along the journey from boyhood to manhood, boys are socialized not to express the natural and spontaneous reactions to spiritual, physical, emotional, and psychological pain, disappointment, and rejection. They are socialized to equate strength and masculinity with suppressing their natural and spontaneous reaction to pain, disappointment, and rejection; not asking for help; and shunning vulnerability. In actuality, vulnerability is about strength – it is about standing in front of another soul spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally naked. Many of these 1,004,638,305 souls are suicidal, slowly descending into the deep dark abyss of depression, and consumed by low self-esteem and repressed emotions. 


          According to the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development, an organization based in Paris, France which administers the triennial Programme for International Student Assessment (“PISA”) which examines the proficiency of 15 year olds -- in over 90 nations -- in reading, reading comprehension, science, mathematics, writing, and writing comprehension, boys throughout our global village are academically underperforming their female counterparts.  The PISA scores for girls are much higher than those of boys in reading, reading comprehension, and writing comprehension. Boys find it difficult to navigate a literacy-based curriculum. Educators and school administrators equate boys’ difficulty or inability to read with their level of intelligence, label them as either “intellectually challenged” or “unteachable”, and arbitrarily ship them off to special education classes. The majority of these boys are brilliant. Rather than investigating why boys have difficulty developing reading and reading comprehension skills or making adjustments in the curriculum – adjustments which would include infusing the curriculum with reading material that interests boys and captivate their attention -- boys are allowed to read several grades below their current grade level. Eventually, they lose interest in school and drop out. Unless an individual, organization, or institution intervenes, these souls will mature into uneducated, unemployable, and unskilled adults who will find it difficult to resist the pull of gravity of illegitimate economic opportunities and the fast track to prison. 


          At least 3,000,000,000 souls are living on less than US$2.50 each day and approximately 1,000,000,000 children are living in poverty – many of whom are boys. Boys born into impoverished families are unable to attend school because the cost of textbooks and school supplies exceed the family’s monthly or annual income. The International Labour Organization which is headquartered in Geneva, Switzerland estimates that approximately 1,199,400,000 children are engaged in child labor. It further estimates that 786,600,000 of the 1,199,400,000 young souls engaged in child labor are boys. There are between approximately 300,000 to 500,000 child soldiers – children as young as 7 years old – who are recruited to serve in armed militias – children who are witness to and participants in atrocious acts of brutality and deadly violence. Approximately 60% of the souls forced to serve as child soldiers are boys. The United Nations’ most recent “Children And Armed Conflict Report” monitored the violation of children’s rights in 20 nations that are engulfed in bloody conflicts. These nations employ the services of children as solders, suicide bombers, spies, and messengers. Verified cases of recruitment and employment of children as soldiers in nations which include, but are not limited to, Yemen, the Syrian Arab Republic, South Sudan, Nigeria, Somalia, the Central African Republic, and the Democratic Republic of the Congo appear in the report. Since 2017, the United Nations International Children’s Emergency Fund has helped more than 8,700 children – many of whom are boys -- who served as child soldiers and were released from armed groups that engaged their services to reintegrate into civilian life and find and reunite with their families. 

            "World Day Of The Boy Child” serves as a platform for individuals, organizations, and institutions to improve the manner in which we protect our boys and reclaim our heritage.

          How? 

          Global and Regional Coordinators for “World Day Of The Boy Child” are offering a few suggestions: 


• Rewrite the narrative on strength and masculinity by equating strength with vulnerability.


 • Facilitate and moderate Global and National Town Halls which serve as venues for boys and adolescent males to engage in a “straight-no chaser dialogue” to express to key stakeholders what they need and want to safely and successfully navigate the arduous journey from boyhood to manhood. The key stakeholders with whom boys and adolescent young males would engage in discussions include educators, school administrators, law enforcement professionals, legal professionals, health care professionals and providers, social services professionals and providers, parents, legislators, business leaders, and Fatherhood and Men’s Issues advocates and practitioners. Global and National Town Hall Meetings would also serve as a venue for boys and adolescent males to co-design and co-monitor -- with key stakeholders -- initiatives that provide them with the resources and tools they need to successfully and safely navigate their journey from boyhood to manhood. 


• Identify and support existing initiatives which have a successful track record of addressing and helping to eradicate the (A) academic underperformance of boys and adolescent males and their mischaracterization as being “unteachable”, “intellectually challenged”, and “behavior problems”; (B) rising incidence of depression and suicide among boys and adolescent males; (C) recruitment and utilization of boys and adolescent males as child soldiers; (D) underlying causes of poverty which lead to boys and adolescent males working full-time to support their families and not attending school; (E) literacy gap for boys and adolescent males; (F) lack of legitimate real-life options; and (G) lack of positive male role models. 


• Employ male educators and administrators in schools located in communities that have Fatherless households or households devoid of a dominant male presence. 


• Design and implement “male-inclusive” curricula in Grades K-12 – by introducing reading material that captures the interest of boys and adolescent males. Primary schools and high schools would be required to provide its male student population from ages 5 through 17 with textbooks and classroom and reading materials that are action and science-oriented and informational.


 • Design and implement a “No Boy Left Behind Literacy Initiative” which results in every boy reading at least one grade level above his current grade. 


• Offset the repressed anger of boys and adolescent males which is a by-product of their current socialization with the design of mandatory anger management and conflicts resolution training. All primary schools and high schools would be required to include and implement mandatory anger management and conflicts resolution training in their curricula. As a result, boys in the 5 through 17 age group in every school can be provided with essential emotional, psychological, and decision-making tools that will help them safely and successfully navigate the arduous journey from boyhood to manhood. 


          For further information about “World Day Of The Boy Child” and how you can participate, please contact one of the Coordinators listed above. 


30 January, 2019

WE ARE ALL ARTISTS: GLENVILLE ASHBY, Ph.D.

           


          What if every morning when you awaken, you envision the new day that greets you as a blank canvas?  What if, in the first waking moments of each new day, you envision yourself as an Artist?  The truth of the matter is that we are all Artists.   We transform the vast space of our blank canvas – each new day --  into an intricately hued and complicatedly designed collage with our thoughts . . . words . . . actions . . . inactions . . . intentions . . .  happiness . . . disappointments . . . . triumphs . . . interactions with other souls . . . mindfulness . . .  and mindlessness.




            Artists look at the world and see beauty, magic, and possibilities.

In the first waking moments of each new day, Artists ask: “What will I create today?”


  
         How different would your Life be if you looked at each new day as a blank canvas?   Would you make different decisions?   Would it move you to become completely aligned with your purpose?   Would you have a better life and be more successful?   




When you awaken tomorrow morning and look at your new day – your blank canvas -- will you ask:  “What will I create today?”

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Glenville Ashby, Ph.D. is one of the Millennium’s leading Spiritual Masters, Qigong Sifu, Spiritual Teacher, Life Coach, Wellness Consultant and the award-winning author of Anam Cara: Your Bridge to Enlightenment and Creativity (www.amazon.com; www.barnesandnoble.com); In Search Of Truth:  A Course In Spiritual Psychology – Selected Writings 2013-2018 (www.amazon.com; www.barnesandnoble.com); and The  Mystical QiGong Handbook For Good Health (www.amazon.com; barnesandnoble.com). 





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