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19 August, 2014

MARKETING PROFESSIONAL TAPPED AS COORDINATOR OF PHILADELPHIA'S OBSERVANCE OF INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY OF PRAYER FOR MEN AND BOYS


PHILADELPHIA, PA (USA)19 August 2014 - Native Philadelphian and marketing professional, Mrs. Sandra Wilks, has been tapped to serve as the Coordinator of the International Men's Day of Prayer for Men and Boys for the City of Philadelphia. The International Men's Day of Prayer for Men and Boys which will be observed on Sunday, 16 November 2014 throughout our global village and will launch the worldwide celebration of International Men's Day on Wednesday, 19 November 2014. Eighty nations throughout our global village will celebrate International Men's Day (www.imd-global.org) under the theme, "Working Together For Men and Boys".

  "In times past, religious institutions and religious leaders of all faiths and denominations have played a pivotal role in the strengthening and stabilizing our communities. In the Millennium, religious institutions and religious leaders have a 'key piece of the puzzle' to strengthening families, empowering communities and transforming them into a nurturing, fully functioning, and vibrant oasis. We are calling on Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Sikhs, Hindus, and Buddhists to lift their voices in prayer on Sunday, 16 November 2014 for Men and Boys. In Philadelphia, the International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys will be convened and hosted by ‘Ambassador for Peace’ Sam Lackey during his ‘Sunday with Sam ‘ event and observed at the First Unitarian Church at 2125 Chestnut Street in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania from 3:00 P.M. through 7:00 P.M. The event ‘s theme will be ‘Thank You for Peace’," Mrs. Wilks remarked.

  For further information about the International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys in the City of Philadelphia, contact Mrs. Wilks at (215) 908-9640 or send an e-mail to: spwilks@hotmail.com.
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17 August, 2014

CALL TO PRAYER FOR OUR SONS, HUSBANDS, FATHERS, GRANDFATHERS, GREAT GRANDFATHERS, UNCLES, BROTHERS, COUSINS AND NEPHEWS.....


            Many of us are members of  what has come to be regarded as one of the last generations of children raised by the village.  It seemed that every adult and every institution made positive contributions to the growth of the village.  Religious institutions and religious leaders were the “center of the universe” for the village.  And the village embraced its religious institutions and religious leaders.   Wisdom comes from all places.  Our religious institutions and religious leaders have “key pieces of the puzzle” to strengthening our families, empowering our communities, and bringing healing to our global village.  This is an observation that is not lost on a number of International Men’s Day Coordinators. 


          International Men’s Day Coordinators have issued a “Call To Prayer”  to religious institutions and religious leaders of all faiths and denominations to engage their congregation in prayer for Men and Boys on the Sunday immediately preceding 2014 International Men’s Day.  We have designated Sunday, 16 November 2014 as International Day of Prayer for Men and  Boys .   We are asking every church, synagogue, mosque, and temple to engage its congregation in prayer for the spiritual, mental and physical well-being of Men and Boys – our sons, fathers, stepfathers, husbands,  fiancĂ©es,  uncles, grandfathers, great grandfathers, brothers, cousins, and nephews.   TheFirst Annual International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys on Sunday, 16 November 2014 will usher in 2014 International Men’s Day (www.imd-global.org).   Individuals, institutions and organizations in 80 nations throughout our global village  will observe International Men’s Day on Wednesday, 19 November 2014 under the theme, “Working Together For Men  And Boys.”  Our religious institutions and religious leaders have a key role to play in helping  to keep Men Boys safe and helping to eradicate some of the key challenges which make it extremely difficult for Men and Boys to live happier, healthier, and longer lives.


           Imagine if you will, the powerfulness of 7.1 billion souls who occupy the space and place we know as Planet Earth -- of all faiths and denominations --  lifting their voices in prayers of thanksgiving for the Men and Boys in our lives and for the selfless sacrifices and valuable contributions that Men quietly and unceremoniously make to our families, our communities, ,and our world – every day.    What if on Sunday, 16 November 2014 – the International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys --  Christians, Jews, Muslims, Sikhs, Hindus, and Buddhists throughout our global village embarked on a journey to work together in a loving and collaborative spirit  to end Fatherlessness, gender wars, homelessness, intolerance,, poverty, hunger, and violence? 


         The International Men’s Day of Prayer for Men and Boys is a call for peace; it is a call for bringing hope to the hopeless.


It is a call for transforming our spiritually, psychologically and emotionally toxic communities into a loving, nurturing, and spiritually vibrant  oasis.  


It is a call to end the “school-to-prison” pipeline. 


It is a call to end the rising suicide rate of Men and Boys. 


It is a call to level the educational playing field for boys and put an end to boys – Our Sons – the Next Generation of Leaders, Husbands, and Fathers being arbitrarily misdiagnosed as “behavior problems” and “unteachable”,  placed on Ritalin or other psychotropic medications, and warehoused in Special Education Classes.  


It is a call to end the rising high school dropout rate among Our Sons. 


It is call to end the violence that plagues our communities and prematurely snuffs out the lives of Men and Boys. 


It is a call to provide Boys and Men with real-life options. 


It is a call to bring spiritual, emotional, and psychological healing  to our families, our communities, and our global village. 


It is a call for understanding – an understanding that each of the 7.1 billion souls who occupy this space and place we know as Planet Earth are connected to one another.  And an understanding that  we all live in grave peril if we are not working to keep Men and Boys safe.

23 July, 2014

2014 INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY - FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS


 Q: What is International Men’s Day?

 A: International Men’s Day is a global grassroots movement which honors and celebrates the invaluable contributions and selfless sacrifices that Men make every day to our families, our communities, and our world. International Men’s Day has the potential to become the global medium to heal our world. The concept and themes of International Men’s Day are designed to give hope to the depressed, faith to the lonely, comfort to the broken-hearted, transcend barriers, eliminate stereotypes and create a more caring humanity. Since its inception, International Men’s Day has blossomed into a movement which promotes goodwill and positively transforms the lives of many persons and it is an event that resonates with Women as well as Men. Women and Men work together to plan and stage events in observance of International Men’s Day. A number of women currently serve as Regional and Global Coordinators for 2014 International Men’s Day which is being observed in 80 nations around the world.


 Q. When is International Men’s Day celebrated?

 A. International Men’s Day is celebrated on November 19th and it shares a 48-hour partnership with Universal Children’s Day which is celebrated on November 20th and is endorsed by the United Nations. On Wednesday, 19 November 2010, International Men’s Day will be observed by 80 nations throughout our global village.


 Q, What is the theme for 2014 International Men’s Day?

 A “Working Together for Men and Boys” is the theme for 2011 International Men’s Day. Q. Why is 2014 International Men’s Day focusing on boys? What will be accomplished? A. On International Men’s Day – Wednesday, 19 November 2014 – we are inviting people all over the world to host events and initiatives that involve:

 • Like-minded people finding ways to work together for Men and Boys 
• People from diverse perspectives finding ways to work together for Men and Boys
 • People in different countries finding ways to work together for Men and Boys 
• And most importantly, Men and Women finding ways to work together for Men and Boys 

 We look forward to people all over the world finding ways to work together that reflect the Six Pillars of International Men’s Day which means:
 ONE: Working together to promote positive male role models 
 TWO: Working together to celebrate Men’s positive contributions 
 THREE: Working together to focus on Men’s health and well-being 
 FOUR: Working together to highlight discrimination against males 
 FIVE: Working together to improve gender relations and improve gender equality
 SIX: Working together to create a safer, better world.


Q. When was International Men’s Day founded?

 A. International Men’s Day was founded in 1999 by Jerome Teelucksingh, Ph.D., a faculty member of the History Department at the University of West Indies.


 Q. What is the mission of International Men’s Day?

 A. The mission of International Men’s Day is embodied in its six (6) Core Objectives – objectives which also serve as the foundation and framework for individuals and organizations throughout our global village who are observing this day in their own communities. The six (6) Core Objectives which were established in 1999 by Dr. Teelucksingh, the Founder of International Men’s Day, are:

 • To promote positive male role models; not just movie stars and sports men but everyday, working class men who are living decent, honest lives.
 • To celebrate men’s positive contributions to society, community, family, marriage, child care, and to the environment. 
 • To focus on men’s health and wellbeing; social, emotional, physical and spiritual. 
 • To highlight discrimination against men; in areas of social services, social attitudes and expectations, and law. • To improve gender relations and promote gender equality. 
 • To create a safer, better world; where people can be safe and grow to reach their full potential.


 Q. Describe the “International Men’s Day Healing and Repatriation Initiative”.

 A. The “International Men’s Day Healing and Repatriation Initiative” was founded by the United States Coordinator for International Men’s Day, Diane A. Sears. In 2012, for the first time, International Men’s Day was observed in a correctional facility – the Clinton Correctional Facility located in Dannemora, New York. The success of the inaugural observance of 2012 International Men’s Day at the Clinton Correctional Facility spawned the creation of the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative” in January 2013. The International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative promotes the observance of International Men’s Day in all correctional facilities throughout the United States. Observance of International Men’s Day at correctional facilities can take the form of workshops and discussion groups about issues that are in alignment with the theme of International Men’s Day. The International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative’s mission involves providing approximately 2,500,000 souls in the United States who are incarcerated with an opportunity to participate in a worldwide event which encourages them to engage in critical thinking about issues that affect them, their families and loved ones, and the communities in which they have lived and will one day return to. It is about helping them to see themselves as ‘part of a whole’. It is one of the many ‘first steps’ that must be taken to heal and “reconnect” spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally approximately 700,000 souls who are released from American prisons every year and place them on the path to successful reintegration into society. For further information about the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative”, send an e-mail to: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com.


 Q. Describe the USA 2012-2022 International Men’s Day Ten Year Plan

 A. The USA 2012-2022 International Men’s Day Ten Year Plan has targeted -- on a quantifiable basis – resolution of the following key challenges which prevent Men and Boys from living happy, fulfilled, healthier, and longer lives:

 1. EDUCATION - Reduce school dropout rate for boys and young adolescent males by 50% - Increase literacy rates for boys and young adolescent males by 80%
 - Explore existing models that effectively address school dropout and literacy issues to determine if they can be implemented nationally
- Design and implementation of tutoring and mentoring programs  

2. COMMISSION FOR THE ESTABLISHMENT OF A WHITE HOUSE COUNCIL ON BOYS AND MEN 
 - Advocate support for Warren Farrell, Ph.D.’s proposal for the establishment of a White House Council on Boys and Men (www.whitehouseboysmen.org or www,warrenfarrell.com)

 3. MASS INCARCERATION, RE-ENTRY, AND REINTEGRATION Mass Incarceration:
 - Identify causative factors attributing to rising number of boys, young adolescent males, and Men being incarcerated (e.g., poverty, lack of positive role models, lack of education, lack of economic opportunities, dysfunctional families, etc.)
 - Explore existing models that eradicate causative factors attributable to placing boys, adolescent males, and Men on the “fast track” to prison Re-Entry/Reintegration: - Design and implement mandatory one (1) year minimum two-tiered “psychological debriefing” program for formerly incarcerated and their families and loved ones to (a) provide formerly incarcerated with psychological and emotional tools needed to resolve self-esteem, anger management, and decision making issues and (b) provide family members and loved ones with emotional and psychological tools to help formerly incarcerated individuals successfully navigate the arduous journey to healing, redemption, and reintegration
 - Mandatory Mentoring Program which matches up a newly released incarcerated individual with a formerly incarcerated individual who has a successful track record of reintegrating into society and family life for one-on-one mentoring

 4. FATHERHOOD
 - Male Parenting Programs that educate Boys and young adolescent males who are not Fathers as well as expectant fathers on their parental roles and responsibilities (e.g., changing diapers, feeding, what infants and children need – e.g., nurturing, mentoring, bonding, etc., types of effective age-based discipline, etc.)
 - Passage and enactment of Federal Equal Custody Act which would provide among other things, (a) courts with a mandate in child custody cases to grant Fathers full and physical joint custody of a child; (b) parenting time credit which would work to reduce the amount of child support a Father pays according to the additional amount of time he spends with his child; and (c) paternity leave for all Fathers.

 5. HEALTH
 - Passage and enactment of Men’s Health legislation which would, among other things, create an Office of Men’s Health in the United States Department of Health and Human Services which would advocate for medical research and medical research funding for prostate cancer, colon cancer, diabetes, heart disease, hypertension etc. in the same manner in which the Office of Women’s Health (established in 1991 in the United States Department of Health and Human Services) has successfully advocated for Women’s Health
 - Reduction by at least 50%, rising mortality rate for prostate cancer, colon cancer, and heart disease
 - Reduction by at least 50%, rising incidence of diabetes and Alzheimer’s Disease
 - Reduction by at least 50%, rising incidence of suicide among boys, adolescent males, and Men

 6. VIOLENCE
 - Design and implementation of mandatory conflicts resolution and anger management training for Grades K through 12
 - Reduction by 80% of physical, emotional, and “cyber” bullying

 7. MILITARY IN TRANSITION
 - Reduce by 50%, homelessness among veterans/military personnel 
- Reduce by 50%, suicide among veterans/military personnel - Reduce by 50%, unemployment rate among veterans/military personnel
 - Reduce by 50%, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome among veterans/military personnel


 Q. Is International Men’s Day intended to compete with International Women’s Day?

 A. No. The early pioneers of International Men’s Day remind us that International Men’s Day is not intended to and does not compete with International Women’s Day. The purpose of International Men’s Day is to highlight men’s experience and to improve gender relations and foster greater collaboration among genders.


 Q. Identify some of the countries that will participate in 2014 International Men’s Day?

 A. The countries that are planning events observing 2014 International Men’s Day, include, but are not limited to the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, India, Italy, the United States, Argentina, Ghana, South Africa, Zimbabwe, Argentina, Norway, Trinidad and Tobago, Jamaica, and Denmark


Q. Is there a website for International Men’s Day which will provide individuals and organizations with information about the event and how they can participate?

 A. Yes. Individuals and organizations interested in celebrating International Men’s Day can visit its website at www.imd-global.org. .

01 July, 2014

IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R)'S "CHILDREN'S CORNER" CELEBRATES 10TH ANNIVERSARY


In 2004, a brilliant, compassionate, courageous gentleman who was also the patriarch of my family -- a Man who always encouraged  everyone around him to reach their full potential, called upon IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD® to create a CHILDREN‟S CORNER.  "In Search Of Fatherhood(R) should have a Children‘s Corner.   It‘s just a suggestion for you to consider,"  he whispered in my ear. In 2014, I am celebrating the tenth anniversary of CHILDREN‟S CORNER and the life of this wise Village Elder who would have turned 100 years old on 31 March 2014. Although he passed away on 24 May 2010 at the age of 96, his legacy is perpetuated  through CHILDREN‟S CORNER. During his lifetime, he was the center of his family‘s universe and a positive  male role model. He understood that our children are always asking us::  "Do you hear me? Do you see me? Do I matter?"  Listening to our children – our bridge to the future -- and providing them with an avenue to express their dreams and share their view of the world clearly demonstrates to them that they are being seen, heard, and that they really do matter.


CHILDREN'S CORNER is this Wise Village Elder's gift to IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R) -- and more importantly -- the Children of the World.  IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R) is continuing to perpetuate this gentleman's legacy by extending an invitation to all Children -- throughout the world -- to contribute poems and essays for publication in forthcoming issues of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R). 


Poems and essays can be e-mailed to: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com or mailed to:  IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R), Post Office Box 3885, Philadelphia, PA  19146-0185 USA.  


For further information about CHILDREN'S CORNER, contact IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R) by sending an e-mail to its Managing Editor, D.A. Sears, at: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com or calling 267-581-3963.

25 June, 2014

BARE HILL CORRECTIONAL FACILITY TO OBSERVE 2014 INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY


 Bare Hill Correctional Facility located in Malone, New York will join institutions, organizations, and individuals in 80 nations in observing 2014 International Men's Day on Wednesday, 19 November 2014. This year's theme for International Men's Day is "Working Together for Men and Boys". Calendar Year 2014 marks the correctional institution's second observance of International Men's Day as part of the International Men's Day "Healing and Repatriation" Initiative launched in 2012. Bare Hill Correctional Facility's observance of 2014 International Men's Day is being coordinated by an Incarcerated Father who has served since 2012 as the Empowerment Coordinator for International Men's Day at the invitation of the Founder of International Men's Day, Jerome Teeluckingsingh, Ph.D. The International Men's Day "Healing and Repatriation" Initiative was inaugurated in 2012 by the United States Coordinator for International Men's Day and Chair of the 2012-2022 International Men's Day Ten Year Plan Committee, Diane A. Sears. In 2012, for the first time, International Men’s Day was observed in a correctional facility – the Clinton Correctional Facility located in Dannemora, New York.

 On Monday, 19 November 2012, an American correctional facility joined individuals, institutions, and organizations in over 70 nations in observing 2012 International Men’s Day under the theme, “Helping Men and Boys Live Longer, Happier, Healthier Lives”. The success of the inaugural observance of 2012 International Men’s Day at the Clinton Correctional Facility spawned the creation of the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative” in January 2013. On Tuesday, 19 November 2013, International Men’s Day was observed at the Bare Hill Correctional Facility located in Malone, New York under the leadership. The International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative” promotes the observance of International Men’s Day in all correctional facilities throughout the United States. A number of International Men’s Day Coordinators in other nations are considering implementing thIs initiative in their respective countries. Observance of International Men’s Day at correctional facilities can take the form of workshops and discussion groups about issues that are in alignment with the theme of International Men’s Day.

 So what is the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative all about?

 It is about providing approximately 2,500,000 souls in the United States who are incarcerated in the United States with an opportunity to participate in a worldwide event which encourages them to engage in critical thinking about issues that affect them, their families and loved ones, and the communities in which they have lived and will one day return to. It is about helping them to see themselves as ‘part of a whole’. It is one of the many ‘first steps’ that must be taken to heal and “reconnect” spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally approximately 700,000 souls who are released from American prisons every year and place them on the path to successful reintegration into society.

 For further information about the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative”, send an e-mail to: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com.

15 June, 2014

HAPPY BIRTHDAY AND HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO THE FATHER OF IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R)!


Today is Father's Day -- Sunday, 15 June 2014. But it is also the birthday of someone who helped change the direction of my life and continues to influence my journey on Planet Earth -- my Best Friend, Mentor -- and the Father of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R), the late L.T. HENRY, an author, photojournalist, sales and success motivation trainer, and classically trained musician who spoke five languages (French, German, Spanish, Russian, and Chinese), performed briefly with The Philadelphia Orchestra, and was a former drummer for internationally acclaimed songstress and film and television actress Ms. Della Reese. Fifteen years ago -- on 1 March 1999, “L.T.”, as he was affectionately referred to by those of us who knew and loved him, died suddenly.

 So, who was L.T? 

 He was a man who danced with life, strived for excellence, fought against injustice, saw and pointed out the beauty and untapped potential in every one, and transformed adversities into triumphs. He was a compassionate Creative Genius who searched for answers and truth and invested 100% of his intellect, passion, energy, and talent into each person he mentored and into every project that he took on. I was lucky enough to be one of those individuals with whom he shared his wisdom and his vision for the world. L.T. expected each of his mentees to search for answers and truth, to help others, to “dance with life”, to strive for excellence, to invest 100% of our intellect, passion, energy and talent into each and every project that we worked on, and to “get up, dust ourselves off, and get back in the race” when Life threw us a curve ball. 

 A critical thinker, L.T. shared his concerns about the unique issues that confronted Men around the world with me. He asked aloud: “Where does a man go to find answers to questions about Fatherhood? Who can he turn to?” The fact that no one walked up to Men, tapped them on their shoulder, and said, ”Hey, to become a successful parent and have happy, well-adjusted children, you need to do ‘x, y, and z’,” was not lost on him. L.T. saw the need for the creation of an interactive and uncensored Fatherhood Forum that provided Men from all Walks of Life throughout our global village with an opportunity to freely express their dreams and questions and to exchange information, ideas, and solutions about issues that tugged at their heartstrings. He envisioned a world in which Men from all Walks of Life would share information with each other, work together, and support each other. 

It was a world that he was working to help create when he died. 

 Happy Birthday L.T.!

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

Fatherhood transcends boundaries. It transcends the boundaries of geography, religion, language, ethnicity, politics, class, and economics.
All Men who are Fathers dream the same dreams for and about their children. Many, under the most difficult set of circumstances, struggle to positively shape the minds and souls of our children -- the village's heart and soul.
Fathers forego their own personal dreams, and in so doing, give their children the freedom to dream dreams and transform those dreams into entities that the world will see, feel, hear, and touch. Children are the invisible thread that connects every man who is a Father throughout our global village. 
To the Fathers of the world: Thank you for loving, mentoring, and nurturing our children-- the village's heart and soul.

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!