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17 September, 2014

WHY THE NEED FOR INTERNATIONAL DAY OF PRAYER FOR MEN AND BOYS?: JEROME TEELUCKSINGH, Ph.D.


Thousands of persons on Sunday 16 November 2014 will be observing the First Annual International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys. In the future, thousands more will continue to observe and benefit from this special day. Ms. Diane Sears (member of the IMD Coordination Committee and IMD United States Coordinator) who conceptualized this Annual International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys envisions it as being able to “…bring together religious institutions and religious leaders of all faiths and denominations in a collaborative effort to bring healing to men and boys, their families, and their communities.” Such vision and philosophy is badly needed in a world that is filled with sadness, confusion, pain, destruction and evil.


I cannot boast of being a spiritual or religious person, but I know the power of prayer and respect those who can effectively use prayer to positively transform lives. Some of us will realize that one of the easiest answers to overcome daily challenges is to pray.
Below is a prayer that could be used on 16 November. Anyone is free to use it or modify it t fit their special event.



 A PRAYER FOR MEN AND BOYS


Let us pray for courage and faith to be given to divorced and incarcerated fathers.
Pray for single fathers who struggle to raise a family;
we pray for justice and fair treatment of non-custodial fathers.
We pray that those boys and men with addictions will have the will-power to end their destructive habits;
pray for healing of men who are depressed, physically sick and injured.
Pray for the mentally and physically challenged so they will not feel forgotten and useless.
Let us pray for those men who work in dangerous situations;
we pray for strength for those boys who face peer pressure and bullying.
Let us pray that men will be positive role models and continue building families and communities;
we will keep praying for the peacekeepers to bring lasting peace to our world.
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03 September, 2014

VOICES OF OUR FATHERS


          Of the 7.2 billion souls who occupy this space and place we know as Planet Earth, at least approximately 1 billion souls are Fathers.  They are Our Fathers -- old men, young men, poor men, rich men, homeless men, incarcerated men, wise men, married men, divorced men, Christians, Jews, Muslims, Sikhs, Hindus, Quakers, Buddhists, and agnostics.   If each of these approximately 1 billion voices – Voices of Our Fathers – were to speak as one voice, what would they tell us?  Would they speak of the dreams they have for Our Children --  the “heart and soul” of the village – and “Emerging Keepers of the Planet”?  And when asked to speak about their dreams – the dreams they had before they became Fathers – dreams they cast aside so that Our Children can have the freedom to dream dreams and transform those dreams into realities that the world can see, feel, hear, and touch, would these approximately 1 billion voices become pensively silent?  Would they urge us to fight against injustice, search for truth, step out on faith, and find the courage to stand in our own truth even if it means we must stand alone?   


             The Voices of Our Fathers remind us of our connectedness to one another and that we are more than mere extensions of them.  Listen as at least 1 billion voices speak as one voice  – urging us to never discount history – our own and the history of others who may not look like us, dress like us, speak the same language that we do, and who may worship differently.  Yes, we may be different.  But it is our differences that make each of us unique.  Differences are to be embraced.  And yet, despite our differences, there is an invisible thread that connects each of the 7.2 billion souls throughout our global village.  We all dream the same dreams; have the same hopes and fears; and experience moments of deep despair and intoxicating jubilation.  .  Our Fathers – at least 1 billion men who are old, young, poor, rich, homeless, incarcerated, wise, married, divorced,   Christians, Jews, Muslims, Sikhs, Quakers, Hindus, Buddhists and agnostics – with one voice are telling Our Children:  “Transcend the boundaries of religion, ethnicity, politics, language, culture, class, and economics. It is my fervent prayer that you inherit a world that is peaceful . . . compassionate . . .  and economically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually vibrant.  My greatest wish is that you will learn to create your own happiness.  Happiness is something we can only create for ourselves. We cannot and should not rely on others to make us happy.  Find your purpose in life.  Everyone has a purpose --  a reason for being on this space and place we know as Planet Earth.   Make each day better than the day before.”


        For centuries, Our Fathers have quietly and unceremoniously gone about the business of positively shaping the minds and souls of Our Children – our bridge to the future. They elected to remain silent about what they needed and wanted to raise Our Children – a task which has always been daunting.  As we approached the 21st Century something changed.  Married Fathers, Divorced Fathers, Incarcerated Fathers, Custodial Fathers, and Single Fathers took a long look at their reflection in the proverbial mirror and embarked upon a journey to redefine their parental roles and responsibilities.  They spoke aloud about what they needed and wanted to raise the Next Generation of Leaders, Husbands, Fathers, Wives, and Mothers.   But it did not end there. Our Fathers are transforming public policy which is creating equal parenting legislation that gives Fathers equal standing in legal custody battles to obtain full and/or equal physical and joint custody of Our Children.  While this is not the case in the United States, a number of nations provide paid paternity leave to Fathers.   Our Fathers are not just talking about what they need and want, they are going about the business of getting what they need and want to sustain fully functioning family units and empowered communities.  Where programs do not exist which meet their needs, they are creating them. They are staging boycotts against sponsors of television shows that portray them in negative stereotypical roles.  The Voices of Our Fathers – at least 1 billion voices – speak as one about their humanity:  “I am a human being!  I am not an emotionless automaton.  I laugh.  I love.  I hurt.  I cry.  Yes, I shed tears.  But my shedding of tears by no means is a reason to call my masculinity into question.  I am a man.  Respect me.  Respect my humanity.  I will walk through fire if that is what it takes to protect my family.  My children are my reason for being.  I am capable of loving, mentoring, and nurturing my children – even if it means that I must do it alone.”

19 August, 2014

MARKETING PROFESSIONAL TAPPED AS COORDINATOR OF PHILADELPHIA'S OBSERVANCE OF INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY OF PRAYER FOR MEN AND BOYS


PHILADELPHIA, PA (USA)19 August 2014 - Native Philadelphian and marketing professional, Mrs. Sandra Wilks, has been tapped to serve as the Coordinator of the International Men's Day of Prayer for Men and Boys for the City of Philadelphia. The International Men's Day of Prayer for Men and Boys which will be observed on Sunday, 16 November 2014 throughout our global village and will launch the worldwide celebration of International Men's Day on Wednesday, 19 November 2014. Eighty nations throughout our global village will celebrate International Men's Day (www.imd-global.org) under the theme, "Working Together For Men and Boys".

  "In times past, religious institutions and religious leaders of all faiths and denominations have played a pivotal role in the strengthening and stabilizing our communities. In the Millennium, religious institutions and religious leaders have a 'key piece of the puzzle' to strengthening families, empowering communities and transforming them into a nurturing, fully functioning, and vibrant oasis. We are calling on Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Sikhs, Hindus, and Buddhists to lift their voices in prayer on Sunday, 16 November 2014 for Men and Boys. In Philadelphia, the International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys will be convened and hosted by ‘Ambassador for Peace’ Sam Lackey during his ‘Sunday with Sam ‘ event and observed at the First Unitarian Church at 2125 Chestnut Street in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania from 3:00 P.M. through 7:00 P.M. The event ‘s theme will be ‘Thank You for Peace’," Mrs. Wilks remarked.

  For further information about the International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys in the City of Philadelphia, contact Mrs. Wilks at (215) 908-9640 or send an e-mail to: spwilks@hotmail.com.
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17 August, 2014

CALL TO PRAYER FOR OUR SONS, HUSBANDS, FATHERS, GRANDFATHERS, GREAT GRANDFATHERS, UNCLES, BROTHERS, COUSINS AND NEPHEWS.....


            Many of us are members of  what has come to be regarded as one of the last generations of children raised by the village.  It seemed that every adult and every institution made positive contributions to the growth of the village.  Religious institutions and religious leaders were the “center of the universe” for the village.  And the village embraced its religious institutions and religious leaders.   Wisdom comes from all places.  Our religious institutions and religious leaders have “key pieces of the puzzle” to strengthening our families, empowering our communities, and bringing healing to our global village.  This is an observation that is not lost on a number of International Men’s Day Coordinators. 


          International Men’s Day Coordinators have issued a “Call To Prayer”  to religious institutions and religious leaders of all faiths and denominations to engage their congregation in prayer for Men and Boys on the Sunday immediately preceding 2014 International Men’s Day.  We have designated Sunday, 16 November 2014 as International Day of Prayer for Men and  Boys .   We are asking every church, synagogue, mosque, and temple to engage its congregation in prayer for the spiritual, mental and physical well-being of Men and Boys – our sons, fathers, stepfathers, husbands,  fiancĂ©es,  uncles, grandfathers, great grandfathers, brothers, cousins, and nephews.   TheFirst Annual International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys on Sunday, 16 November 2014 will usher in 2014 International Men’s Day (www.imd-global.org).   Individuals, institutions and organizations in 80 nations throughout our global village  will observe International Men’s Day on Wednesday, 19 November 2014 under the theme, “Working Together For Men  And Boys.”  Our religious institutions and religious leaders have a key role to play in helping  to keep Men Boys safe and helping to eradicate some of the key challenges which make it extremely difficult for Men and Boys to live happier, healthier, and longer lives.


           Imagine if you will, the powerfulness of 7.1 billion souls who occupy the space and place we know as Planet Earth -- of all faiths and denominations --  lifting their voices in prayers of thanksgiving for the Men and Boys in our lives and for the selfless sacrifices and valuable contributions that Men quietly and unceremoniously make to our families, our communities, ,and our world – every day.    What if on Sunday, 16 November 2014 – the International Day of Prayer for Men and Boys --  Christians, Jews, Muslims, Sikhs, Hindus, and Buddhists throughout our global village embarked on a journey to work together in a loving and collaborative spirit  to end Fatherlessness, gender wars, homelessness, intolerance,, poverty, hunger, and violence? 


         The International Men’s Day of Prayer for Men and Boys is a call for peace; it is a call for bringing hope to the hopeless.


It is a call for transforming our spiritually, psychologically and emotionally toxic communities into a loving, nurturing, and spiritually vibrant  oasis.  


It is a call to end the “school-to-prison” pipeline. 


It is a call to end the rising suicide rate of Men and Boys. 


It is a call to level the educational playing field for boys and put an end to boys – Our Sons – the Next Generation of Leaders, Husbands, and Fathers being arbitrarily misdiagnosed as “behavior problems” and “unteachable”,  placed on Ritalin or other psychotropic medications, and warehoused in Special Education Classes.  


It is a call to end the rising high school dropout rate among Our Sons. 


It is call to end the violence that plagues our communities and prematurely snuffs out the lives of Men and Boys. 


It is a call to provide Boys and Men with real-life options. 


It is a call to bring spiritual, emotional, and psychological healing  to our families, our communities, and our global village. 


It is a call for understanding – an understanding that each of the 7.1 billion souls who occupy this space and place we know as Planet Earth are connected to one another.  And an understanding that  we all live in grave peril if we are not working to keep Men and Boys safe.

23 July, 2014

2014 INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY - FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS


 Q: What is International Men’s Day?

 A: International Men’s Day is a global grassroots movement which honors and celebrates the invaluable contributions and selfless sacrifices that Men make every day to our families, our communities, and our world. International Men’s Day has the potential to become the global medium to heal our world. The concept and themes of International Men’s Day are designed to give hope to the depressed, faith to the lonely, comfort to the broken-hearted, transcend barriers, eliminate stereotypes and create a more caring humanity. Since its inception, International Men’s Day has blossomed into a movement which promotes goodwill and positively transforms the lives of many persons and it is an event that resonates with Women as well as Men. Women and Men work together to plan and stage events in observance of International Men’s Day. A number of women currently serve as Regional and Global Coordinators for 2014 International Men’s Day which is being observed in 80 nations around the world.


 Q. When is International Men’s Day celebrated?

 A. International Men’s Day is celebrated on November 19th and it shares a 48-hour partnership with Universal Children’s Day which is celebrated on November 20th and is endorsed by the United Nations. On Wednesday, 19 November 2010, International Men’s Day will be observed by 80 nations throughout our global village.


 Q, What is the theme for 2014 International Men’s Day?

 A “Working Together for Men and Boys” is the theme for 2011 International Men’s Day. Q. Why is 2014 International Men’s Day focusing on boys? What will be accomplished? A. On International Men’s Day – Wednesday, 19 November 2014 – we are inviting people all over the world to host events and initiatives that involve:

 • Like-minded people finding ways to work together for Men and Boys 
• People from diverse perspectives finding ways to work together for Men and Boys
 • People in different countries finding ways to work together for Men and Boys 
• And most importantly, Men and Women finding ways to work together for Men and Boys 

 We look forward to people all over the world finding ways to work together that reflect the Six Pillars of International Men’s Day which means:
 ONE: Working together to promote positive male role models 
 TWO: Working together to celebrate Men’s positive contributions 
 THREE: Working together to focus on Men’s health and well-being 
 FOUR: Working together to highlight discrimination against males 
 FIVE: Working together to improve gender relations and improve gender equality
 SIX: Working together to create a safer, better world.


Q. When was International Men’s Day founded?

 A. International Men’s Day was founded in 1999 by Jerome Teelucksingh, Ph.D., a faculty member of the History Department at the University of West Indies.


 Q. What is the mission of International Men’s Day?

 A. The mission of International Men’s Day is embodied in its six (6) Core Objectives – objectives which also serve as the foundation and framework for individuals and organizations throughout our global village who are observing this day in their own communities. The six (6) Core Objectives which were established in 1999 by Dr. Teelucksingh, the Founder of International Men’s Day, are:

 • To promote positive male role models; not just movie stars and sports men but everyday, working class men who are living decent, honest lives.
 • To celebrate men’s positive contributions to society, community, family, marriage, child care, and to the environment. 
 • To focus on men’s health and wellbeing; social, emotional, physical and spiritual. 
 • To highlight discrimination against men; in areas of social services, social attitudes and expectations, and law. • To improve gender relations and promote gender equality. 
 • To create a safer, better world; where people can be safe and grow to reach their full potential.


 Q. Describe the “International Men’s Day Healing and Repatriation Initiative”.

 A. The “International Men’s Day Healing and Repatriation Initiative” was founded by the United States Coordinator for International Men’s Day, Diane A. Sears. In 2012, for the first time, International Men’s Day was observed in a correctional facility – the Clinton Correctional Facility located in Dannemora, New York. The success of the inaugural observance of 2012 International Men’s Day at the Clinton Correctional Facility spawned the creation of the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative” in January 2013. The International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative promotes the observance of International Men’s Day in all correctional facilities throughout the United States. Observance of International Men’s Day at correctional facilities can take the form of workshops and discussion groups about issues that are in alignment with the theme of International Men’s Day. The International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative’s mission involves providing approximately 2,500,000 souls in the United States who are incarcerated with an opportunity to participate in a worldwide event which encourages them to engage in critical thinking about issues that affect them, their families and loved ones, and the communities in which they have lived and will one day return to. It is about helping them to see themselves as ‘part of a whole’. It is one of the many ‘first steps’ that must be taken to heal and “reconnect” spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally approximately 700,000 souls who are released from American prisons every year and place them on the path to successful reintegration into society. For further information about the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative”, send an e-mail to: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com.


 Q. Describe the USA 2012-2022 International Men’s Day Ten Year Plan

 A. The USA 2012-2022 International Men’s Day Ten Year Plan has targeted -- on a quantifiable basis – resolution of the following key challenges which prevent Men and Boys from living happy, fulfilled, healthier, and longer lives:

 1. EDUCATION - Reduce school dropout rate for boys and young adolescent males by 50% - Increase literacy rates for boys and young adolescent males by 80%
 - Explore existing models that effectively address school dropout and literacy issues to determine if they can be implemented nationally
- Design and implementation of tutoring and mentoring programs  

2. COMMISSION FOR THE ESTABLISHMENT OF A WHITE HOUSE COUNCIL ON BOYS AND MEN 
 - Advocate support for Warren Farrell, Ph.D.’s proposal for the establishment of a White House Council on Boys and Men (www.whitehouseboysmen.org or www,warrenfarrell.com)

 3. MASS INCARCERATION, RE-ENTRY, AND REINTEGRATION Mass Incarceration:
 - Identify causative factors attributing to rising number of boys, young adolescent males, and Men being incarcerated (e.g., poverty, lack of positive role models, lack of education, lack of economic opportunities, dysfunctional families, etc.)
 - Explore existing models that eradicate causative factors attributable to placing boys, adolescent males, and Men on the “fast track” to prison Re-Entry/Reintegration: - Design and implement mandatory one (1) year minimum two-tiered “psychological debriefing” program for formerly incarcerated and their families and loved ones to (a) provide formerly incarcerated with psychological and emotional tools needed to resolve self-esteem, anger management, and decision making issues and (b) provide family members and loved ones with emotional and psychological tools to help formerly incarcerated individuals successfully navigate the arduous journey to healing, redemption, and reintegration
 - Mandatory Mentoring Program which matches up a newly released incarcerated individual with a formerly incarcerated individual who has a successful track record of reintegrating into society and family life for one-on-one mentoring

 4. FATHERHOOD
 - Male Parenting Programs that educate Boys and young adolescent males who are not Fathers as well as expectant fathers on their parental roles and responsibilities (e.g., changing diapers, feeding, what infants and children need – e.g., nurturing, mentoring, bonding, etc., types of effective age-based discipline, etc.)
 - Passage and enactment of Federal Equal Custody Act which would provide among other things, (a) courts with a mandate in child custody cases to grant Fathers full and physical joint custody of a child; (b) parenting time credit which would work to reduce the amount of child support a Father pays according to the additional amount of time he spends with his child; and (c) paternity leave for all Fathers.

 5. HEALTH
 - Passage and enactment of Men’s Health legislation which would, among other things, create an Office of Men’s Health in the United States Department of Health and Human Services which would advocate for medical research and medical research funding for prostate cancer, colon cancer, diabetes, heart disease, hypertension etc. in the same manner in which the Office of Women’s Health (established in 1991 in the United States Department of Health and Human Services) has successfully advocated for Women’s Health
 - Reduction by at least 50%, rising mortality rate for prostate cancer, colon cancer, and heart disease
 - Reduction by at least 50%, rising incidence of diabetes and Alzheimer’s Disease
 - Reduction by at least 50%, rising incidence of suicide among boys, adolescent males, and Men

 6. VIOLENCE
 - Design and implementation of mandatory conflicts resolution and anger management training for Grades K through 12
 - Reduction by 80% of physical, emotional, and “cyber” bullying

 7. MILITARY IN TRANSITION
 - Reduce by 50%, homelessness among veterans/military personnel 
- Reduce by 50%, suicide among veterans/military personnel - Reduce by 50%, unemployment rate among veterans/military personnel
 - Reduce by 50%, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome among veterans/military personnel


 Q. Is International Men’s Day intended to compete with International Women’s Day?

 A. No. The early pioneers of International Men’s Day remind us that International Men’s Day is not intended to and does not compete with International Women’s Day. The purpose of International Men’s Day is to highlight men’s experience and to improve gender relations and foster greater collaboration among genders.


 Q. Identify some of the countries that will participate in 2014 International Men’s Day?

 A. The countries that are planning events observing 2014 International Men’s Day, include, but are not limited to the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia, India, Italy, the United States, Argentina, Ghana, South Africa, Zimbabwe, Argentina, Norway, Trinidad and Tobago, Jamaica, and Denmark


Q. Is there a website for International Men’s Day which will provide individuals and organizations with information about the event and how they can participate?

 A. Yes. Individuals and organizations interested in celebrating International Men’s Day can visit its website at www.imd-global.org. .

01 July, 2014

IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R)'S "CHILDREN'S CORNER" CELEBRATES 10TH ANNIVERSARY


In 2004, a brilliant, compassionate, courageous gentleman who was also the patriarch of my family -- a Man who always encouraged  everyone around him to reach their full potential, called upon IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD® to create a CHILDREN‟S CORNER.  "In Search Of Fatherhood(R) should have a Children‘s Corner.   It‘s just a suggestion for you to consider,"  he whispered in my ear. In 2014, I am celebrating the tenth anniversary of CHILDREN‟S CORNER and the life of this wise Village Elder who would have turned 100 years old on 31 March 2014. Although he passed away on 24 May 2010 at the age of 96, his legacy is perpetuated  through CHILDREN‟S CORNER. During his lifetime, he was the center of his family‘s universe and a positive  male role model. He understood that our children are always asking us::  "Do you hear me? Do you see me? Do I matter?"  Listening to our children – our bridge to the future -- and providing them with an avenue to express their dreams and share their view of the world clearly demonstrates to them that they are being seen, heard, and that they really do matter.


CHILDREN'S CORNER is this Wise Village Elder's gift to IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R) -- and more importantly -- the Children of the World.  IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R) is continuing to perpetuate this gentleman's legacy by extending an invitation to all Children -- throughout the world -- to contribute poems and essays for publication in forthcoming issues of IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R). 


Poems and essays can be e-mailed to: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com or mailed to:  IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R), Post Office Box 3885, Philadelphia, PA  19146-0185 USA.  


For further information about CHILDREN'S CORNER, contact IN SEARCH OF FATHERHOOD(R) by sending an e-mail to its Managing Editor, D.A. Sears, at: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com or calling 267-581-3963.

25 June, 2014

BARE HILL CORRECTIONAL FACILITY TO OBSERVE 2014 INTERNATIONAL MEN'S DAY


 Bare Hill Correctional Facility located in Malone, New York will join institutions, organizations, and individuals in 80 nations in observing 2014 International Men's Day on Wednesday, 19 November 2014. This year's theme for International Men's Day is "Working Together for Men and Boys". Calendar Year 2014 marks the correctional institution's second observance of International Men's Day as part of the International Men's Day "Healing and Repatriation" Initiative launched in 2012. Bare Hill Correctional Facility's observance of 2014 International Men's Day is being coordinated by an Incarcerated Father who has served since 2012 as the Empowerment Coordinator for International Men's Day at the invitation of the Founder of International Men's Day, Jerome Teeluckingsingh, Ph.D. The International Men's Day "Healing and Repatriation" Initiative was inaugurated in 2012 by the United States Coordinator for International Men's Day and Chair of the 2012-2022 International Men's Day Ten Year Plan Committee, Diane A. Sears. In 2012, for the first time, International Men’s Day was observed in a correctional facility – the Clinton Correctional Facility located in Dannemora, New York.

 On Monday, 19 November 2012, an American correctional facility joined individuals, institutions, and organizations in over 70 nations in observing 2012 International Men’s Day under the theme, “Helping Men and Boys Live Longer, Happier, Healthier Lives”. The success of the inaugural observance of 2012 International Men’s Day at the Clinton Correctional Facility spawned the creation of the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative” in January 2013. On Tuesday, 19 November 2013, International Men’s Day was observed at the Bare Hill Correctional Facility located in Malone, New York under the leadership. The International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative” promotes the observance of International Men’s Day in all correctional facilities throughout the United States. A number of International Men’s Day Coordinators in other nations are considering implementing thIs initiative in their respective countries. Observance of International Men’s Day at correctional facilities can take the form of workshops and discussion groups about issues that are in alignment with the theme of International Men’s Day.

 So what is the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation” Initiative all about?

 It is about providing approximately 2,500,000 souls in the United States who are incarcerated in the United States with an opportunity to participate in a worldwide event which encourages them to engage in critical thinking about issues that affect them, their families and loved ones, and the communities in which they have lived and will one day return to. It is about helping them to see themselves as ‘part of a whole’. It is one of the many ‘first steps’ that must be taken to heal and “reconnect” spiritually, psychologically, and emotionally approximately 700,000 souls who are released from American prisons every year and place them on the path to successful reintegration into society.

 For further information about the International Men’s Day “Healing and Repatriation Initiative”, send an e-mail to: insearchoffatherhood@gmail.com.